Petit à petit, Yuan fait son nid.

    Lesson 6 Share the Silence

    One day, as usual I went into an elevator, happily. 

    Suddenly Nancy came into the elevator also, she was my big boss. At that time I was unfamiliar with her. And because I was a small marketing executive in the company I didn’t have many opportunities to talk with her. So when the situation came to only two of us standing in the narrow space, the silence, you can imagine?

    Our company was on Level 12. The few seconds we spent together became to feel as long as a few minutes, that long… My throat was dry, my lips were opening and closing by themselves.

    The silence became a burden on me. I felt I should say something, even some small things, it would have been ok. But I didn’t know what to say.

    Then Nancy drew her Blackberry and began to paly with it. I didn’t have any thing at hand. I looked at the electronic display, the numbers were jumping… Finally level 12! Oh, “poof!” We went out of the elevator, happily.

    Any similar case happened to you ? I believe so.

    As Jose says,” It is much easier to share happiness and sadness with people ,but if you wish to share silence with the others, difficult, much much difficult.”

    “Why is sharing the silence with the others so difficult? Because it is demanding. ” Jose smiled.

    “Also because basically speaking you should feel at ease with this person. It requires a lot of trust in the relationship.” Jose said.

    Ahh, he is right. I felt it. Sometimes I didn’t have interesting thing to say and I just felt uneasy about the silence. I wanted to break the silence. Not beause I wanted to say something, but because I imperiously felt that I must say something.

    “Then, after a while, you can go further when you begin to tame silence. You begin to learn to enjoy a new kind of silence that is very unique and precious.”Jose said, ” The silence is there, but there is something flowing under that silence, you can not see it, you can not touch it, but you can feel it.”

    “So we can call it a quality silence. “

    “Silence is very introspective. Silence is enlightening.Silence  is a mirror in your hand which is a reflection of your soul. So when you can be able to share silence with someone… Erhh, in fact, who can you share your silences with ?”

    “Ha ha ha, You!” I laughed.

    “I know; I know, but generally speaking, which kind of people can share their silences with each other?” Jose said with an encouraging tone.

    “Erhh, Soulmates!” I said.

    “Good girl! You are right! ” Jose was very happy,” You know, we are always saying that our friends are the people who can share happiness and sorrow with us. But what about the people who can share your silences with you? Well, they can only be your soulmates or dear dear ones. And they are the most inmportant and precious people around you. “

    Got it!