Tuesdays with Morrie 相约星期二
这本书我十几年前读过它的中文版，对我个人来说是意义非常重大的一本书，可以说它改变了我的人生轨迹。
我的一本命运之书，非常感谢它！
它对我的影响并不是说书里面的一句话拯救了我什么让我反思什么的，它对我的意义远深于此。
最近又再读了一遍，这次读的是它的英文版，仍然感触很深。
或者可能因为年龄阅历的关系，对这本书的感触要比之前更深了。
“人之将死，其言也善。”
听听一个将死之人的肺腑之言吧。
我做的摘抄是基本上把这本书又读了第三遍。
“The class met on Tuesdays. No books were required. The subject was the meaning of life. It was taught from experience. The teaching goes on.”
“Have you ever really had a teacher ? One who saw you as a raw but precious thing, a jewel that, with wisdom, could be polished to a proud shine ? If you are lucky enough to find your way to such teachers, you will always find your way back.”
” I look back sometimes at the person I was before I rediscovered my old professor. I want to talk to that person. I want to tell him what to look out for, what mistakes to avoid. I want to tell him to be more open, to ignore the lure of advertised values, to pay attention when your loved ones are speaking, as if it were the last time you might hear them.”
“There is no such thing as “too late” in life.”
“In business, people negotiate to win. They negotiate to get what they want. Love is different. Love is when you are as concerned about someone else’s situation as you are about your own.”
“There is no formula to relationships. They have to be negotiated in loving ways, with room for both parties, what they want and what they don’t want.”
“I know it hurts when you can’t be with someone you love. But you need to be at peace with his desires. Maybe he doesn’t want you interrupting your life. Maybe he can’t deal with that burden. I tell everyone I know to carry on with the life they know – don’t ruin it because I am dying.”
“……he came out of the doctor’s office with a sword hanging over his head. Do I wither up and disappear, or do I make the best of my time left ? He would not wither. He would not be ashamed of dying. Instead, he would make death his final project, the center point of his days. Since everyone was going to die, he could be of great value, right ? He could be research. A human textbook. Study me in my slow and patient demise. Watch what happens to me. Learn with me.”
“… What she mostly wanted, he learned, was the same thing many people want – sommeone to notice she was there.”
“… because our culture tells us we should be ashamed if we can’t wipe our own behind. But then I figured, forget what the culture says. I have ignored the culture much of my life. I am not going to be ashamed. What’s the big deal ?”
“You have to find what’s good and true and beautiful in your life as it is now. Looking back makes you competitive. And age is not a competitive issue.”
“The truth is, part of me is every age. I’m a three-year-old, I’m five-year-old, I’m a thirthy-seven-year-old, I’m a fifty-year-old. I’ve been through all of them, and I know what it’s like. I delight in being a child when it’s appropriate to be a child. I delight in being a wise old man when it’s appropriate to be a wise old man. Think of all I can be ! I am every age, up to my own. How can I be envious of where you are – when I’ve been there myself ?”
“There were people so hungry for love that they were accepting substitutes. They were embracing material things and expecting a sort of hug back. But it never works. You can’t substitute material things for love or for gentleness or for tenderness or for a sense of comradeship.”
“Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not a substitute for tenderness. I can tell you, as I’m sitting here dying, when you most need it, neither money nor power will give you the feeling you’re looking for , no matter how much of them you have.”
“And yet the house had changed so drastically. It had filled with love and teaching and communication. It had filled with freindship and family and honesty and tears… It had become, in a very real way, a wealthy home.”
“There’s a big confusion in this country over what we want versus what we need. You need food, but you don’t need the latest sports car, you don’t need the biggest house. The truth is, you don’t get satisfaction from those things. You know what really gives your satisfaction ? Offering others what you have to give. Your time, your concern, your storytelling.”
“Devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”
“If you’re trying to show off for people at the top, forget it. They will look down at your anyhow. And if you’re trying to show off at the bottom, forget it. They will only envy you. Status will get you nowhere. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally between everyone.”
“Love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone.”
“‘…And it did’t stop with the greeting. When Morrie was with you, he was really with you. He looked you straight in the eye, and he listened as if you were the only person in the world.”
“I believe in being fully present. That means you should be with the person you’are with. When I’m talking to you now, I try to keep focused only on what is going on between us. I am not thinking about something we said last week. I am not thinking of what’s coming up this Friday. I am not thinking about doing another Kopeel show, or about what medications I’m taking. I am talking to you. I am thinking about you.”
“Learning to pay attention ? How important could that be ? I now know it is more important than almost everything they taught us in college.”
“Here was a man who, if he wanted, could spend every waking moment in self-pity, feeling his body for decay, counting his breaths. So many people with far smaller problems are so self-absorbed, their eyes glaze over if you speak for more than thirty seconds. They already have something else in mind – a friend to call, a fax to send, a lover they’are daydreaming about. They only snap back to full attention when you finish talking, at which point they say, “Uh-huh” or “Yeah, really.” and fake their way back to the moment.”
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